And now for a brief retreat to more mainstream psychological issues, I would like to recommend an excellent essay shared with me, this moring, by someone who ought to know. I never thought of this term–Gaslighting–for this particular syndrome, but it’s in there with other “dysfunctional family” issues, as well as individual ones such as borderline syndrome, narcissism, and even antisocial personality syndromes. I recommend it if you feel that you may identify with any of these, or love someone who does:
Your gaslighter does not see you. You are a shadow standing to the side, trying not to attract attention, while he showers his image of you with love and attention. And no matter how much your mind is in knots, you know this to be true.
Here’s where to find the rest: https://medium.com/@sheaemmafett/10-things-i-wish-i-d-known-about-gaslighting-22234cb5e407